reconcile

verb

rec·​on·​cile ˈre-kən-ˌsī(-ə)l 

reconciled; reconciling

transitive verb

1

a

: to restore to friendship or harmony

reconciled the two factions

… working earnestly to reconcile himself with his wife and estranged son …

—Jillian Cheney

b

: to come to an agreement on or an answer or solution to (something) : settle, resolve

reconcile their differences

The war has put her in the increasingly difficult position of representing both constituencies, whose views of the conflict are both deeply personal and often extraordinarily difficult to reconcile.

—Charles Homans

2

: to make consistent or congruous

reconcile an ideal with reality

Their story cannot be reconciled with the facts.

But Oppenheimer is more about the titular main character reconciling his brilliance with his interpersonal failings …

—Keith Nelson

3

: to cause to submit to or accept something unpleasant

"… I am very much obliged to you for trying to reconcile me to what must be."

—Jane Austen

… is reconciled to the fact that both his ambition and his career have stalled.

—Laura Wilson

… the community is forced to reconcile with their unfulfilled achievements …

—Denise Petski

4

a

: to check (a financial account) against another for accuracy

No amount of auditing can reconcile the hole this leaves in the federal budget.

—Matthew Yglesias

Since then, doctors, counselors and hospitals have had to reconcile estimated payments with actual claims and settle the difference.

—Steve Thompson and Jenna Portnoy

b

: to account for : explain

Nationwide, museums are struggling with how to reconcile collections gathered under circumstances that critics contend were little more than theft.

—Nicole Dungca, Claire Healy, and Andrew Ba Tran

intransitive verb

: to become reconciled

Despite their sometimes tumultuous relationship, the couple managed to reconcile …

—Elizabeth Ayoola

reconcilability

ˌre-kən-ˌsī-lə-ˈbi-lə-tē 

noun

reconcilable

ˌre-kən-ˈsī-lə-bəl 

ˈre-kən-ˌsī-

adjective

reconcilable differences

a theory that is reconcilable with the evidence

reconcilement

ˈre-kən-ˌsī(-ə)l-mənt 

noun

reconciler noun

Did you know?

When faced with a kerfuffle, dustup, or other flavor of fracas, a conciliatory gesture or tone of voice—one intended to gain goodwill or to reduce hostility—can go a long way toward reconciling the squabbling parties. This makes not only common but etymological sense—both conciliatory and reconcile trace back to the Latin verb conciliare, meaning “to assemble, unite, or win over.” Reconcile can also be used when it’s facts, ideas, etc. that are being brought into agreement, and when financial accounts are checked against one another for accuracy. Reconcile is not all feel-good vibes, however. If you reconcile yourself to something unpleasant you come to accept it, as in “Even lexicographers must reconcile themselves to never knowing all the words.”

Synonyms of reconcile

• coordinate
• integrate
• combine
• adapt
• harmonize
• merge
• align
• conform
• accommodate

Choose the Right Synonym for reconcile

adapt, adjust, accommodate, conform, reconcile mean to bring one thing into correspondence with another.

adapt implies a modification according to changing circumstances.

adapted themselves to the warmer climate

adjust suggests bringing into a close and exact correspondence or harmony such as exists between parts of a mechanism.

adjusted the budget to allow for inflation

accommodate may suggest yielding or compromising to effect a correspondence.

businesses accommodating themselves to the new political reality

conform applies to bringing into accordance with a pattern, example, or principle.

refused to conform to society's values

reconcile implies the demonstration of the underlying compatibility of things that seem to be incompatible.

tried to reconcile what he said with what I knew

Examples of reconcile in a Sentence

She and Eddie had separated and reconciled so many times the children had lost track of whose clothes were where. —John Grisham, The Chamber, 1995

He thought they might reconcile the Parisians to his daring design by reminding them of the familiar arches of their bridges. —Mario Salvadori, Why Buildings Stand Up, 1990

By exposing the comic-pathetic quality of the human condition, it temporarily reconciles us to that condition without creating in us complacence, lethargy, or any negative emotion. —Clifton Fadiman, Center Magazine, January-February 1971

It is a function of architecture to reconcile technology with human cussedness, to make the mechanics of life endurable … —Russell Lynes, Harper's, October 1968

It can be difficult to reconcile your ideals with reality.

historians have never been able to reconcile the two eyewitness accounts of the battle

Recent Examples on the Web

The novel series is about a father and daughter trying to reconcile at the end of the world. —Justin Kroll, Deadline, 28 Oct. 2025

All of this comes as Markle and Prince Harry are reportedly trying to reconcile with the British royal family. —Lizzie Lanuza, StyleCaster, 27 Oct. 2025

The two reconciled after a 10-year separation. —Edward Segarra, USA Today, 27 Oct. 2025

While the prospect of testability makes this new model very exciting, Kamali says, there is still much more to be done to reconcile it with other theories in cosmology. —Stephanie Pappas, Scientific American, 27 Oct. 2025

Word History

Etymology

Middle English, from Anglo-French or Latin; Anglo-French reconciler, from Latin reconciliare, from re- + conciliare to conciliate

First Known Use

14th century, in the meaning defined at transitive sense 1a

Phrases Containing reconcile

• reconcile to

Rhymes for reconcile

• campanile
• chrysotile
• domicil
• domicile
• mercantile
• neuropil
• nonpareil
• percentile
• peristyle
• thermopile
• aisle
• bile

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Kids Definition

reconcile

verb

rec·​on·​cile ˈrek-ən-ˌsīl 

reconciled; reconciling

1

: to make friendly again

reconcile friends who have quarreled

2

: to settle by agreement : adjust

reconcile differences

3

: to make agree

a story that cannot be reconciled with the facts

4

: to cause to give in or to accept : make content

reconciled myself to the loss

reconcilable

ˌrek-ən-ˈsī-lə-bəl 

ˈrek-ən-ˌsīl-

adjective

reconcilement

ˈrek-ən-ˌsīl-mənt 

noun

reconciler noun

reconciliation

ˌrek-ən-ˌsil-ē-ˈā-shən

noun

Legal Definition

reconcile

verb

rec·​on·​cile ˈre-kən-ˌsīl 

reconciled; reconciling

transitive verb

1

a

: to restore to harmony

reconciled the parties

reconciled the marriage

b

: to bring to resolution

reconcile differences

2

a

: to check (a financial account) against another for accuracy

b

: to account for

intransitive verb

: to become reconciled

specifically : to voluntarily resume cohabitation as spouses prior to a divorce becoming final with the mutual intention of remaining together and reestablishing a harmonious relationship

denied the complaint for divorce because the parties had reconciled

reconcilability

ˌre-kən-ˌsī-lə-ˈbi-lə-tē 

noun

reconcilable

ˌre-kən-ˈsī-lə-bəl 

adjective

reconcilement noun

reconciliation

ˌre-kən-ˌsi-lē-ˈā-shən 

noun