con·​fi·​dante ˈkän-fə-ˌdänt How to pronounce confidante (audio)
 also  -ˌdant,
: confidant
especially : one who is a woman

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Is it confident or confidant? (Or is it confidante?)

If you find yourself unsure whether you should choose confident or confidant don’t feel bad; confidant comes to English from the French word confident, and when the word first entered our language it was often spelled that way, rather than as confidant. The difference is quite simple: confidant is a noun (meaning "a person in whom you confide things"), and confident is an adjective (defined as “having confidence”). You may well be confident in your confidant, but you would not be confidant in your confident. Although this distinction has not always been observed by writers, confidante is generally used for a female confidant. The word confidant is more frequently used to describe a man, but it may be applied to either gender.

Example Sentences

She was her closest friend and confidante. only her closest confidantes know what she's going through
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Word History


borrowed from French confidente, feminine of confident confidant

First Known Use

1662, in the meaning defined above

Time Traveler
The first known use of confidante was in 1662

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Cite this Entry

“Confidante.” Dictionary, Merriam-Webster, Accessed 4 Jun. 2023.

Kids Definition


con·​fi·​dante ˈkän-fə-ˌdant How to pronounce confidante (audio)
: confidant
especially : one who is a woman

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