cajole

verb

ca·​jole kə-ˈjōl 

cajoled; cajoling

transitive verb

1

a

: to persuade with flattery or gentle urging especially in the face of reluctance : coax

had to cajole them into going

b

: to obtain from someone by gentle persuasion

cajoled money from his parents

2

: to deceive with soothing words or false promises

cajoled himself with thoughts of escape

—Robertson Davies

cajolement

kə-ˈjōl-mənt 

noun

cajoler noun

cajolery

kə-ˈjō-lə-rē 

noun

Did you know?

However hard we try, we can’t cajole the full history of cajole from the cages of obscurity. We know that it comes from French cajoler, meaning "to give much attention to; to make a fuss over; to flatter or persuade with flattery"—no surprise there. But the next chapter of the word’s history may, or may not, be for the birds: it’s possible that cajoler is descended from a word that is cage-bound twice over. One potential ancestor both comes from a word meaning "birdcage" and was formed under the influence of the Anglo-French word cage, whence also comes our word cage. The ancestor of our word jail is in this lineage as well.

Synonyms

• blandish
• blarney
• coax
• palaver
• soft-soap
• sweet-talk
• wheedle

Choose the Right Synonym for cajole

cajole, coax, soft-soap, blandish, wheedle mean to influence or persuade by pleasing words or actions.

cajole suggests the deliberate use of flattery to persuade in the face of reluctance or reasonable objections.

cajoled him into cheating on the final exam

coax implies gentle and persistent words or actions employed to produce a desired effect.

coaxed the cat out of the tree

soft-soap refers to using smooth and somewhat insincere talk usually for personal gain.

politicians soft-soaping eligible voters

blandish implies a more open desire to win a person over by effusive praise and affectionate actions.

legislators blandished with promises of support

wheedle suggests more strongly than cajole the use of seductive appeal or artful words in persuading.

hucksters wheedling her life's savings out of her

Examples of cajole in a Sentence

cajoled her into doing his laundry for him

Recent Examples on the Web

The dark, subversive antihero saga begins as Tom is enlisted by Dickie’s father , who mistakenly assumes Tom is a friend of his son , to venture to Italy to cajole him into returning home. —Yvonne Villarreal, Los Angeles Times, 2 Apr. 2024

Over the years, the list of people who’d tried to cajole him back into writing and recording grew legion: Clive Davis. —Caryn Ganz, San Diego Union-Tribune, 18 Feb. 2024

But Kimmel cajoled him, and out came the wrestler-turned-actor, looking sheepish with only a winners’ card as his championship belt. —Kory Grow, Rolling Stone, 25 Mar. 2024

Bonnie devotes her life to assisting, caring for, cajoling, and managing Diana. —Jordan Kisner, The Atlantic, 18 Feb. 2024

Some had come for the legendary bands of a certain vintage; to relive their coming of age when Nixon gave them permission or even cajole them to fly an even freakier flag. —Holly Gleason, Variety, 17 Mar. 2024

Performing arts groups juggled with masking protocols, schedule changes caused by illness, costs for safety equipment and audiences that needed to be cajoled to return. —Sal Pizarro, The Mercury News, 12 Mar. 2024

In that hard-drinking era, sommeliers were considered snobbish, condescending types who cajoled diners into overspending. —Eric Asimov, New York Times, 16 Feb. 2024

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Word History

Etymology

borrowed from French cajoler "to give much attention to, make a fuss over, flatter, persuade with flattery," going back to Middle French cajoller "to flatter out of self-interest," perhaps the same verb as Middle French cageoller "to vocalize, sing (of a jay or other bird)," expressive formation of uncertain origin

Note: Middle French cageoller was explained by Wartburg, et al., Französisches etymologisches Wörterbuch, as a permutation, under the influence of cage cage entry 1, of gaioler "to chatter, cackle (of birds)," a derivative of Picard gaiole "birdcage," corresponding to Old French geole, jaole "cage, prison" (see jail entry 1). According to Dubois-Mitterand-Dauzat, Dictionaire étymologique et historique du français (Larousse, 1993, continuing the etymology from earlier editons of Dauzat), the meaning "to flatter" is due to association of cageoller with enjôler "to captivate by flattery" (Old French enjaoiler "to imprison"). Alternatively, the two formations ("to sing, vocalize" and "to flatter") have been regarded as of independent origin; the first may either be an onomatopoeic outgrowth of cacarder "to honk (of a goose)," or a rearrangement of *jacoler, based on jacques, a dialectal name for a jay; the second is conjecturally a merger of enjôler and caresser "to stroke, caress entry 1" (thus E. Gamillscheg, Etymologisches Wörterbuch der französischen Sprache, 2. Auflage, Winter, 1969).

First Known Use

1630, in the meaning defined at sense 1a

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Kids Definition

cajole

verb

ca·​jole kə-ˈjōl 

cajoled; cajoling

: to coax or persuade especially by flattery or false promises : wheedle

cajolery

-ˈjōl-(ə-)rē 

noun